I would like to share a comment from a very wise woman who happens to not just be an adoptive mother, but an adoptee herself. She is speaking from experience, but more importantly, she is speaking with the authority that comes from walking in the Spirit and claiming the power that comes from taking hold of the "living and powerful" Word of God!
"Oh, dear sister in the faith! This post really spoke to the heart of what I've been struggling to communicate to many of the people in our lives. Thanks for verbalizing it. I'm not sure why all the comments seem to be about your Pearl comment. I don't know who they are but it seems in the context of your post it was just an aside you were making, not the point. I would also add, that as an adoptee from a large family with cousins and nephews and our children, etc. adopted from foster care and orphanages as well as special needs adoptions, I hadn't even heard of some of the specific diagnoses children have these days until reading blogs. Amazingly, NONE of the dozens of us had those diagnoses! Looking back, I think we would have had we not been adopted 40 years ago or had we been adopted into different families. Our own adopted children have many diagnoses (such as FASD) however I never considered using that as an "excuse" for their behavior. One would have to read into the Bible verses that there's an exception clause for special needs (example, be kind to one another, unless you have a neurological condition that makes it too hard). For me, the saddest bit of education I have received through people's blogs is the level of frustration and despair parents are living with. How can this be? Moments of losing our focus - I can see that. But to spend months and be at the point of burn-out? I'm really confused as to how people have gotten there. I should clarify, I'm confused how people who have access to the very throne of God, have lost hope. I will say, there are those of us who are living joyfully and victoriously in spite of the horrors our children experienced prior to coming to our homes. Are we perfect? No. Do we have bad moments? Yes. But endless days of misery? No! God's Word has given us everything we need for life and godliness (which includes raising children). Many blessings as you minister to us moms through this blog!"
All I would like to add is amen and amen.